I have learned that communication is essential to having successful relationships, and especially in a marriage. A marriage is between you, your spouse and the Lord. Within this marriage both spouses have to be open and direct, in order to be in congruence with the Lord's will. In a relationship there are going to be hard things you have to tak about. You HAVE to counsel with your spouse everyday!
I counseled with my friend who has been married for four months. She said, "If you don't have good communication you are going to build up walls. The other person cannot read your mind. It's one of those things where you have to straight up share your feelings in a non-critical defensive way. Let your spouse love you, and let them understand your feelings." From this lesson I learned that you need to learn to communicate, you will learn to grow closer.